Questions I want to ask the men my brothers are becoming

What's the Amazon Prime password again?

Who didn't put the toilet seat down?

Why do you smell so bad and when was the last time you took a fucking shower?

When is the last time you ate a home cooked meal?

Have you been resting enough? Have you been playing too many games?

Tell me seriously, is the fucking n word out of your fucking mouth at this point?

Did it hurt when I threw that vaccuum at you as a kid or did you cry to get me in trouble?

When was the last time we talked?

What did we talk about?

When was the last time I made you cry?

When was the last time you needed comfort?

I have pictures of us when we were kids. Isn't it strange that at one point in our lives, I stopped picking you up into my arms?

do you remember those times where I'd lose my pen and the netire house would be on lockdown until we found it?

Where do you want to be in 5 years?

Where do you think we will be in 5 years? What do you think the state of our family will be?

How much easier did I make it for you

How much harder did I make it for you

Whose shadow looms over you more, the expectations of our parents, or my half successes?

When was the last time you cried?

Was there ever a moment in your life where you prayed for someone to show you the way?

Was there a time where you needed help and didn't know how to ask for it?

Was there a time when I wasn't there, and you needed me?

Have you ever wanted to kill yourself?

Where did you learn about love? What were the messages that I sent about what you deserve, what your partner deserves? How do you treat the person who loves you, and how do they treat you? Are you happy? Are you comfortable? Can you recognize the difference, and that you deserve both?

What do you tell people about me?

Has there ever been a time where I have let you down?

When was the last time I apologized for something that I did?

Did you know that I used to steal food from my job to bring home to us? Did you know that sometimes that ice cream was stolen too?

Do you know that I'd still do that shit ten times over again because fuck corporations?

What is it like, becoming a man, raised by the hands of women? Has it made you less shitty? More tolerable than the average Hmoob man? Has it made you soft in the strongest of ways, and strongest in the gentlest of ways? Has it taught you that cuaj leej tub tsis hlub niam thiab txiv npaum ib tug ntxhais?

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When was the first time you heard the words "I love you"? Can i guess that they werent from anyone in our household?

Have I ever told you that I love you?